Here's what i'm sick of hearing you tell young girls....

"choose the man that doesn't want a piece" " don't pick a man who wants to play house" "don't let your boo be the center of your world."

Here's what i want to hear:

You are strong. You are capable. You are passionate. You are smart. You can do anything. Your dreams are not crazy. Your heart is beautiful. You radiate light. How you treat people matters.

Try hard. Learn to love yourself. Do the hard work. Go to school. Get a job. ASK if you have questions. It's ok not to know how to do things, but it's not ok to not do anything about that. Be proactive. Be courageous. Be Brave. Be NICE.

You are worth the effort. You are washed clean. You are not defined by your mistakes but they ARE a part of you and your story. LEARN from your mistakes.

Figure out what makes your heart beat, what makes you excited. Find out what you're good at. Have a hobby that's not the Internet, or hooking up or going to parties.

Read. See movies. Goo to concerts. (if you can afford) Figure out how to budget money, and how to save money.

Figure out who you are. Tell the truth. Be humble.

Learn how to love yourself. Respect yourself.  Understand your priorities. 

The guys will come, but you only have this time to be young.

open the Bible. Take time to let to words swirl in your head.

And then breathe in the grace and mercy God has for you. Exhale doubt and hate and insecurity.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made, but you have to do some work to understand what that means. you are enough. You are unique in the best way. You are worth the effort. You are not defined by your marital status.

Love is a journey. Love is a relationship. Love is alive. Love will find it's way to you.

Love wins.